Friendships, Military Children, Uncategorized

The Difficulty of Keeping Friendships

I am a strong believer in people are nothing without their family.  Your family are the ones who will always be there for you and will always have your back through the good times and the bad.  With this being said, I feel blood is not the only thing that makes a person family.  I have some friends that I consider to be family over some of my relatives that I am actually related to.  These friends have always been there for me in times of need throughout my life.  Not many military brats can say they are fortunate enough to have friends who they know they will always be able to rely on.  I have come across other military brats in my life who have a hard time making friends with others, because they already know that they will not be living in the same place for too long.  I consider myself very lucky to have friends that I know I can rely on.

It is very easy as a military brat to not open up to others.  Knowing that you will not be living in the same place for too long, a military brat may have the mindset of not making friends with others because that friendship will probably not even last that long.  Now someone reading this blog may be thinking something along the lines of, “Well that’s nonsense….. even if a military brat has to frequently move, they can still maintain a long distance friendship with someone else by calling, texting, and even sending letters to that person.”  I know first hand that this is a very difficult thing to do.  Once you move to a different place, it is very hard to keep communication with someone from where you used to live.  Although I have not kept in touch with some friends that I have had in different places, I have also kept in touch with many others.  I also consider myself lucky to be able to say this.


Introduction, Military Children

Home….. What is Home?

I was inspired to start my blog in order to give readers a feel of what it is like to grow up as a military child, who are also referred to as “military brats,” from the viewpoints actual military children such as myself.  Military brats aren’t born into ordinary lives such as most children.  They are forced to deal with the constant adjustment of moving to a new place as a result of their parent(s) being stationed in a different place.  When moving to a different place, military children are forced to make new friends, basically having to start a new life.  This constant moving has a tendency of taking a toll on military children.  As a result of this constant change, it is difficult for military brats to make and become close to friends.

I am currently a college student who was raised as a military brat.  In my free time, I enjoy hanging out with friends, working out, and playing sports.  I consider myself to be a social and outgoing.  I rarely ever find myself alone.  I enjoy being in the company of others and meeting new people.  I believe that all people are interesting in their own way and can hold an interesting conversation.  I also feel that it never hurts to start a conversation with someone, because socializing with a random person could be the one thing that brightens up that person’s day.

The meaning of my title, “Home….. What is Home?”, is to give readers an idea of what military brats think of the word “home.”  Since military brats move constantly and have lived in many places, we often have a weird description of the word home.  To the average child, home is where they were born and raised for a majority of their life.  Most military brats, on the other hand, have lived in many places and don’t really have a place that they can call home.  Personally, I believe home is wherever your friends and family are.  As a result, I can not label one specific place as home.  I have many places that I call home.